5 Ways to Make Friends

1020155_39660993 So you want friends to hang out with (I mean like, real friends)? Here’s 5 steps to help you with that.

1. Look up. Put down your mobile, your laptop, your tablet, and look up. You’re not going to make friends staring at screen. For a video worth watching, click here LOOK UP

2. Step out. If you want to find friends, you have to meet people. So whether you do it easily or you’re super shy, find ways to step out there. All it takes is a “Hi,” with a smile. Don’t just wish for people to find you, go out and find people. Join clubs in things you like doing, or better still, just go and try new things! You could surprise yourself with the people you meet. Look for the opportunities and when you find them, take them.

3. Listen. Epictetus, a greek philosopher, once said, “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” Maybe he was right. People want someone to listen to them – so when you’re trying to make friends, make sure you listen as much as you can. Your time will come eventually to talk.

4. Consider their needs. People have many different ideas of what makes someone a friend, but central to all the different ideas is this concept – friends are people who do/give something to/for you. So it stands to reason, that if you want friends, you’ll have to be a friend to them – and that means you’ll have to meet this central concept of friendship.

5. Give. This step is basically a continuation of step four. What is it that makes a friend who they are? They give. Whether it’s time, emotional support, companionship, or gifts: friends give.

I hope you find this helpful. I know it’s short and simple, but sometimes things have to be short and simple. Best wishes in your hunt for friends! P.S. There are friends that stick closer than family – you just have to find them.

photo by Barun Patro.

Snake Hunt 7/02/15

Photos taken on a snake hunting trip on the 7/02/15. Photos are free to use – attribution and non-commercial license. Photos include a leaf-tailed gecko camouflaging itself on a tree, red-naped snake, crowned snake, diamond python, red-eyed green tree frog, stephen’s banded snake, and a stuttering frog. :)

If They Were Friends

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They would play for you

Not against you.

Build you up not tear you down,

Nor trip you onto the ground.

They’d heal your wounds,

Spinning protective cocoons

Not create new scars

And trample over your heart.

It would be about you not them

They stand through thick and thin.

They value what they say

Apologise at the end of the fray.

They are the people you want to be

The ones you love to see

They think you’re gold

No matter what unfolds

They’re called friends

Like the real ones heaven sends –

Not the pathetic counterfeits

Who run about making a mess.

Endless trails of broken hearts,

Promises, and torn bleeding parts.

Only feeling their pain

Only after their gain.

If they were friends

They would be there at the end

But it’s only just begun

And they’re all gone.

I guess they’re nyet

Cause the end isn’t here yet

Glory Days

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We met under bright lights
Starting a fire
And did we glow bright
As we kissed that night

But now the lights fade
and the colors grey
We start to forget
the glory days

Like flowers so shy
Like clouds in the sky
The ever-changing tide
Suddenly passed by

Locked in our prison
Screaming, wondering
Why we jumped in
The bright days faltering

Now it’s cold
Glory days feel old
I swear I chased fool’s gold
But who knows

Those days are overrun
Swallowed up, overdone
Wondering when I’ll see the sun
So much said, so little done